The five languages of love By Gary Chapman is a book designed to help you explore love in depth and discover what you need to feel valued when it comes to your relationships. This self-discovery guide teaches you how to be a better partner by focusing on how you should be loved and how to give others the kind of love they need. The author describes the five languages of love as acts of service, quality time, statement words, gifts and physical contact. Understanding each language will give you insights into what was missing in your relationships in the past, but also lessons in creating a new loving relationship.
Let’s look at the five languages of love in detail with examples of how it can be used in a relationship.
The language of love: the act of service
“How can I help you?”
If this is your spouse’s love language, they feel loved and satisfied when you help them perform tasks. Simply, love is
Teamwork. They appreciate any offer of help. Make dinner, wash the car, make arrangements – relieving the spouse’s load makes them feel most loved. They cherish your hackSlow involvement in their lives and how much you are willing to make it a little easier for them. . If this is your language, try asking your partner for help and show him how much you appreciate being there for you when you need them.
Examples of Act of Service:
Breakfast is served in bed
Ask if you can help and do it
Make utensils after dinner
The language of love: quality time
“Cycling or walking?”
Make your date or partner feel loved by spending time together. It does not matter what activity you do as long as you are fully present and enjoying your dating company. The words “full presence” are the key here; Your attention must be on your partner and the activities you do together. To make them feel loved, ask them about the next adventure of the urge they want to go out, get them to choose between two activities, or plan an amazing trip for both of you. You do not have to go big – you can just walk, go buy ice cream, or cuddle and chat to make your partner feel valued. So put down the phone, hold your partner’s hand, and have a pleasant conversation. Your partner will feel very connected to you and you will speak his love language.
Examples of quality time:
We planned an amazing date
Cook together
Go for a walk together
The language of love: affirmative words
“I love you.”
Nothing speaks louder than the right words. Your spouse enjoys hearing you express how important they are to you, how amazing they are and how you feel about them. Love should be shared through words and expressed in full. And always make sure you mean your words and do not try too hard to impress them. It’s better to share something short, sweet and heartfelt than something you force yourself into just because you think your partner needs it. You do not have to be a Shakespeare to speak this language of love. For example, if your spouse cooks dinner, thank youThey’re for a delicious meal, or if they look nice that day, tell them! Even small compliments will go a long way.
Examples of billing words:
Write a letter
Give them a morning compliment
Share your feelings about them
The language of love: gifts
“What can I bring you?”
This is sometimes an incomprehensible language because many people think it is material or very expensive. But if you understand this language, you will see the beauty and purity in expressing love like that. Gifts have nothing to do with money, but serve as a way to let your spouse know you are thinking about them. For example, if you are traveling alone and you see a seashell that reminds you of the AmzinA person waiting for you, bring him home for him. They will love everything that has to do with the shell and cherish what this gift represents. Gifts are related to memories and the act of thinking of someone special – not just a way to show off your wealth.
Examples of gifts:
Buy them warm socks for the winter
Create a picture frame
Surprise them with something they always wanted
The language of love: physical contact
“Let’s curl up.”
The sense of connection with you is what your partner wants most. This language of love is about creating strong intimacy through touch. For example, you look at your spouse and give him a little kiss before they leave the house and receive them with a big hug when they return home. While some may think this language is about sex, it’s much more than that. This language deals with the small, everyday types of physical intimacy that you share with each other. You do not have to touch your partner all the time, but find the special moments that you can create a loving connection and share yourself with.
Examples of physical contact:
Hold hands
Kiss on the cheek
Give a massage
When you learn about the love language of your partner and yours, you will be able to show your love on a much deeper level and feel more connected with your partner. Relationships with the same language of love may be easier because you already know what your partner needs from your experience. However, if your language is different, communicate and find ways to express the love you and your partner need.